Dating & Relationship Coach
for Men and Women
(Dating, Love, Career, Life, Success)
A man Whisperer is someone who knows the secrets of Communication, Magnetism, and Attraction. More than having Impact, s/he leave an Imprint that makes others want More.
Hello! I’m your Man Whisperer, Laurel House. Each week, I, along with my co-host, the yin to my yang and the voice of calm- Robert Mack, discuss, debate, and come up with answers and actionable advice for all of your dating, love, relationship, sex, confidence, pick-up, breakup, heartbreak questions.
But Beware… Nothing is off limits. Which means that some graphic language might be used.
Man Whisperer is demystifying dating, by translating, decoding, revealing, and exposing the
secret language, thoughts, feelings, and intentions of men and women.
Dating shouldn’t be so confusing! It’s not a game. It’s a strategy… that’s based on
communication, creates clarity, and gives you confidence so that you can be authentically vulnerable and find real love… finally!
Listen up and take notes, because the Man Whisperer is about to give you some rule-screwing insight, answers, and real-talk advice that will change your dating and love life… NOW.
Robert Mack is a published author, Relationship Expert on E!’s “Famously Single,’ and Happiness Coach, transforming the lives of everyone from A-list celebrities to CEO’s, stay at home moms to mid-level employees, helping them to be happier from the inside out.
Robert’s powerfully calm and calming attitude, energy, and tone infuses his clients with confidence, knowing, and ease. He makes you feel seen, heard, understood, and not alone, while simultaneously being the support and strength that you need to push a little harder, a little farther, a littler deeper, and a little more. He is the magical combination of being a man’s man and simultaneously understands and can speak directly to the woman’s heart and mind.
We release a new episode every Monday and we have some incredible guests scheduled to give you their insight too. In the next few months you can expect episodes on how to get over a heartbreak, what it’s like to date on TV (we have a reality star from “The Bachelorette” and “Bachelor in Paradise”), Online and App Dating do’s and don’ts, using your Intuition to Date Better and Smarter, and strategies to stop being so UnHappy in dating and life.
It’s DEFINITELY NOT Love at first Sight. There is “some”thing missing, but you don’t know what “it” is. So what do you do if you are lacking that hit of chemistry on a first date? Laurel and Rob will tell you…
Everyone has an opinion when it comes to what you should and shouldn’t do in your quest for love, relationships, and companionship. And you feel like you’ve been following all of it! So why the hell are you still single?! Laurel and Rob let you in on a little secret that will change the way you date, plus give their two cents on which rules must be screwed if you want to find something true.
Here’s how to Get Over your pickup and dating fear, shame and insecurity. Tripp Kramer, host of the podcast “How to Talk to Girls” joins Laurel and Rob to come up with actionable tips that will transform your dating confidence. We get real about the secret crippling shame that so many daters suffer from, PLUS we tell you EXACTLY what to say to make a connection, start a conversation, and make a positive impression that makes others want more…
You WANT a relationship. But are you Ready? What happens when you date or get into a relationship when you really should be taking some time on your own? And should you date someone who is going through transition? Natasha Chandel, host of the podcast Kinda Dating joins Laurel and Rob to talk about when you know you need a break, and how to tell if the person you’re dating isn’t in the right headspace to date. We go DEEP and REAL. So get ready!
You have this long list of relationship partner needs and wants based on past relationships, expectations, fantasies, and what you think your ideal partner “looks” like. But what about you? What do you bring to the table? How do you present yourself? Do you like the way that you are perceived and received? Are there areas that you can and truly want to change or improve? Laurel and Rob will break it…
Your Morning After podcast host Ashley Johnson joins Laurel and Rob to discuss and debate the idea of “Training” your partner, or, as Laurel calls it, “Managing” your partner. Because successful relationships are about understanding how to handle each other’s personalities, moods, feelings, styles, priorities, opinions, needs, wants, and lives. This is not about controlling or being controlled, it’s about effective communication that fosters, deepens, and expands your relationship.
YOUR happiness is your responsibility. THEIR happiness is their responsibility. It’s also not “their” fault if you’re miserable. It’s not your fault if they are miserable. We are each individually in control of our own feelings- good, bad, failure, joyful, fulfilled, excited, dull, sparked, etc. And while you can’t control them, you CAN control yourself and the situation that you allow yourself to be in. You can also control how you respond to them. If you’re not happy, it’s time to make a shift. Laurel and Rob can help…
Are you chasing the fairytale, rendering the reality never good, romantic, fun, exciting, or perfect enough? Reality Check: Love is not a Fairytale. Reality star Josh Murray joins Laurel and Rob to discuss the differences between the fairytale and the truth. We go DEEP, reveal TV secrets, discuss what happens when you fall in love in a bubble, and the affect of social media/work/friends/distractions/LIFE on your relationships. Get ready to get real!
Screw your idea of that “Alpha Asshole!” That “alpha” is actually hiding weakness. Rob and I explain what is Truly the strong, in control, and sexy definition of an alpha man and woman. What’s the difference between IQ and EQ? And why are emotional outbursts irrational, while critical thinkers are actually often the emotionally intelligent ones? We are breaking down and breaking the “typical” and WRONG definitions and beliefs, AND we are teaching you how to be confident in who you are and how you date. THIS is powerful!
A “Collective Intelligence,” intuition combines past experience, present situation and realities, future dreams, plus feelings to create synthesized insight and information. So how do you know when it’s your intuition speaking or it’s really a feeling of fear, insecurity, anger, hopes, or judgment? Rob and Laurel break down how you can use Logic to have Clarity around your Intuition in every Dating, Love, Relationship, Breakup, and Life situation from pre-first date to post-break and moving on…
More than chemistry, what you’re really craving is connection! You want to feel seen, calm, loved, and cared for. But are you looking in the wrong places and to the wrong people for your happiness? Are you giving your power away to people who don’t deserve it and don’t even want it? Relationship expert Jonathan Aslay joins Laurel and Rob to break down the purpose of the first date, plus how to get that date, and once on the date- how to steer it towards your purpose of finding a love that’s great, real, and enduring!
Do you barely notice and even ignore the Positives and good things in your life-whether it’s a little win, big win, or just a good and productive day? Yet you ruminate, obsess, fixate, freak out, punish (yourself or others), and can’t stop thinking about the Negatives in your life- the little, the big, the frustrations, and the screw-ups? Rob and Laurel break down why you do that, how it affects your personal life, professional life, relationships, and dating life, and what you can do to STOP that negativity loop and start being more positive TODAY. Stop just surviving. It’s your turn to thrive. Or at least to feel “good.”
“I will miss your smile, but I miss mine more…” What are the signs that it’s time to end it? How do you end it? How can you make it less harsh or painful? How can you be more sure (regardless of how sad it can be) about your decision? Being in a bad relationship, or even just a not great relationship, can lead to depression, insecurities, unhealthy behaviors and thoughts, and a temporary loss of self. Rob and Laurel help you figure out when and how to end it, while minimizing the pain and questioning that can come with the end of a relationship. It’s time for you to have some clarity, which will allow you to have closure.
You don’t need to be a bi**h to be an Alpha Woman. So what defines them (us)? Are guys really “intimidated” by strong women or just not interested in putting up with their sh*t? What makes alpha women tick? What makes alpha women weak in the knees? Beyond Alphas, what are Beta women? And how can we get along, make love, and live together in exciting, calm, fierce, playful, sweet, enduring, passionate harmony? Awaken the Rebel’s founder Shereen Thor joins Laurel and Rob to discuss… This is a good one!
Would you describe yourself as someone who is magnetic, interesting, emotionally stirring, inspiring, certain, addictive, memorable, and you make others want more? Are confidently and unapologetically vulnerable, perfectly imperfect, and REAL? Because that makes you Attractive, Attracting, and Love-able. And THAT’S what makes you STICKY.
Someone who is Sticky doesn’t want to be “completed,” because you are already whole. You put effort into yourself- both for you and them. Others wake up thinking about you, you pop into their mind throughout the day, and they like hearing your voice or seeing your name light up in text before heading to bed. You are boyfriend/girlfriend material, and more than that- marriage material. You are unapologetically you- completely. You have nothing to prove, because you know that you already have it and are it. If that doesn’t describe you, then LISTEN up! Rob and Laurel dig into how you can up your Stickiness, be Magnetic, Memorable, and Make Them Want More!
Even BEFORE going from just dating to a love-filled relationship, it’s essential to be aware of the absolute relationship destroyers that, if ignored, can poison your relationship, cause incessant fights, and even be the root of the ultimate end.
Love isn’t enough to make your relationship last if… you are with someone who doesn’t respect, support, honor, or share your Core Values. More than respect or sharing what your core values are, how you express your core values can make all of the difference. Rob and Laurel discuss and dig into this and 4 more absolute relationship destroyers including: difference in communication styles, when your feelings are taken as criticism, misaligned timing expectations, and if you are deeply unhappy.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this is an episode that you definitely don’t want to ignore.
You’ve got to hear this funny, direct, edgy, and REAL talk do’s and don’ts when it comes to surviving the holiday season- single or in a relationship. Sick of the “you’re STILL single?” question and pity-filled eyes at holiday parties? We have the answers as to what to do and say. Planning to meet the parents during holiday festivities? We will give you advice, steps, and actions to make the meeting not only survivable, but will further strengthen your relationship. PLUS, we’ve got the list of 5 people NOT TO BRING to your holiday party.
What’s the best way to meet someone with real enduring relationship potential? Nope, it’s not online, apps, or matchmakers. It’s in real life! So why are you struggling with it? Professional Wingman Thomas Edwards joins Rob and Laurel to breakdown and give real, immediately useful advice on how to get over your fears and insecurities of starting a conversation and connecting, and turning small talk into a conversation that ups your magnetism, makes you more interesting and desirable, and makes others want more.
An ideal first date includes 3 essential musts: Conversation, Connection, and Contact.
Instead of your average drinks or dinner date, here’s the list of interesting places to go for date night. Because dating doesn’t have to be boring, redundant, or feel like a chore. In fact, it SHOULD’NT be! You want to stand out, make an imprint, and be memorable. While great conversation at drinks or dinner can definitely do that, you increase your chance of making a lasting impression if you allow your date location to contribute to the impact that you make. Redundancy isn’t sexy. Individuals crave excitement and change. But when you are in a committed, monogamous, long-term relationship, you’re limited to one… one person. So you have to conjure change by getting creative when it comes to activities. Alternative dates are a great way to keep things exciting, spice things up, and satisfy your need for change. Rob and Laurel break it down. TAKE NOTES then TAKE ACTION!
Damage from a breakup doesn’t just disappear because you decided to reappear. When getting back with an ex, you MUST first fix the distrust you caused by leaving. Distrust, Hurt, Fear, Egg Shells, Insecurities, Doubt… Breakups do a huge amount of damage. If you want to get back with an ex, you need to address and find a remedy for the reason you broke up in the first place, address and heal from the damage you did during the breakup (name calling, anger, aggression, low blows, intentional hurt), and start a new relationship that allows you to move forward with new healthier habits and understanding of who you are as individuals and who you are as a couple now. Laurel reveals some deep, dark hurt and mistakes from a past painful yo-yo breakup/get back/breakup… and Laurel and Rob dig into her mistakes made and what YOU can do better.
What do you do if you “accidentally” called your partner fat, selfish, dumb, a bitch, or ANY other names? Name calling can truly destroy a relationship, planting a nasty little seed that breeds insecurity, anger, resentment, sadness, shame, etc… Never label your partner (or yourself) with any hurtful name. Oftentimes those insults are said in a moment of frustration and not meant. Other times it’s meant as a joke, or even inspiration and motivation to change. STOP IT! In this episode, Rob and Laurel answer a listener’s question, giving suggestions and solutions as to what to do after he told his girlfriend that her butt is big during an argument. And since she isn’t talking to him, we offer a strategy to get her back, heal the hurt, and move forward in the relationship.
Listen up to my MAN WHISPERER podcast IF you’re looking for a relationship (as opposed to just a one-night romp). It’s time to open both your and their heart… starting at “hello.”
When the heart and mind opens, you’ve got them. Guest Connell Barrett first studied with Pickup Artists and decided to up his “game” through strategies that go deeper and get real. Together, with Laurel and Rob, we talk about what exactly to do to take your “pickup” to the next level, one that makes more than a showy impact, but also creates a lasting imprint.
“Hello, I’m single because”… I have too much baggage, I’m too fat/ugly/poor, I’m not good enough, I don’t have any experience…
The real why you’re still single is because your excuses are the energies that you are putting out.
You are on Autopilot, with your subconscious, maybe even unconscious internal directive making you “win” and “succeed” at proving your excuses to be true. You, you are WINNING! At being Single.
You are living the life that you’re willing to put up with. Whether you like it or not, you’re dealing with it, making excuses for it, relinquishing your power to it. If you honestly weren’t ok with it, you wouldn’t have made the choices that perpetuated and kept you on this path.
Even if Much of your life is circumstantial and even out of your control, there is always something you can do to make change.
So let’s change that. Laurel and Rob are going up against your “but’s” and excuses, helping to rewire your mind to change your attitude and therefore your life! It’s time to be unwilling to simply exist. Be unwilling to be alone. Be unwilling to live in an unhealthy body. Be unwilling to be constantly broke and money stressed. Be unwilling to be stuck in an unhappy relationship.
Then do what it takes to make a change. Today. Now.
How do you stand out online, without coming across as crazy, feeling inauthentic, or spending ALL of your time obsessing? What are the basic rules of online and app engagement? What EXACTLY should your first message say? What if they don’t respond? What should shy guys and girls do? Who SHOULDN’T online date? Online expert Bela Gandhi joins Laurel and Rob to reveal the best most successful way to online and app date.
Don’t say THAT. Say THIS. Exactly. I am your Cyrano, giving you the words to text before and after a date, as well as how to end it. With the right words, you can avoid hurting feelings, leading them on, coming across the wrong way, or feeling insecure. Once you know the words to use, you will have confidence in texting them, even if what you are saying is hard. This is what I do… for SO many of my clients.
Because here’s the problem with dating and texting: it can end a relationship. Even before it ever began! The whole texting situation- what to say, how much to say, when to say it, and how to say it is very complicated. Laurel and Rob break down exactly “what” to say and “why”- the “why” is essential so that you understand the reasons behind the “what,” so that you can then learn how to do it on your own.
Sexy, Happy, Calm, Powerful… When in your life have you felt THAT? When you start to identify times that you have felt most… can illuminate your Core Values. Your Core Values are who you are. They are what define you. They are your home base. If you are feeling off- alone or within your relationship, it’s often because you are ignoring or even going up against your core values.
Many of my clients don’t at first know their values. I didn’t know my values.
Once I figured them out, I had more confidence in who I am, what I stand for, and who is the best match for and with me.
It’s essential to have a clear understanding of your values BEFORE finding someone, because your values play a big role in who you choose and who is truly right for you.
Laurel and Rob reveal the importance of Core Values, and help you determine what yours are.
Only 36% of Men and 18% of Women know when they’re being flirted with! That’s a lot of undetected, ignored, and confused pick ups! So what’s going on? Are you too afraid to acknowledge when you are being flirted with, for fear of being fooled or embarrassed, or is everyone terrible at flirting?! This episode will help. Laurel and Rob break down exactly what to do and say to be a better flirt (and flirt detector). Because flirting is a strategy, but it feels like a spell. There is an art to the flirt, a dance, a rhythm. When it comes to flirting, it’s all about, what I call the “Man Whisperer pull.” Flirting is a juggling act, one that combines the eyes, body, lips, voice, hands, and words. Flirting well takes practice, but more than anything it takes confidence. It’s not about trying to say the “right” things. It’s about being unapologetically you- completely. You have nothing to prove, because you know that you already have it and are it. You are Magnetic, Memorable, and you Make Them Want More!
They were your “One.” Or at least… that’s how you feel. But HONESTLY, despite the relationship not being as healthy, fulfilling, or good as you like to fantasize and romanticize that it was, you can’t stop thinking about them. You obsess, fixate, and compare everyone else to them. You want them back. You might even crave them. But, when you look at the reality of the relationship, more than (and more likely than) them being your “one,” they actually healed you, changed you, taught you, mentored you, unleashed you, made you… feel. Maybe they were your first amazing sexual encounter, maybe they taught you how to love or how to love yourself, maybe they inspired you, maybe they made you feel powerful or peaceful, maybe they helped to shape you, or maybe they are “the one who got away,” your biggest regret, or your greatest catch.
Are you actually in love with them? Were they truly your “one?” Is it them that you so treasure? Or is it the gift that they gave you- the gift that changed, expanded, or liberated you. Laurel and Rob will help you to figure that out, and maybe even get over your obsession because you come to terms with the truth.
The notion of marrying your first love is romantic. But with easy access and constant opportunity, it’s hard not to wonder “what if…” or “did I pick the right type…?” Which is why you should date different types and have different experiences before committing your life to the one who you think might be your right type till death. In dating others first, you’ll get clarity on what you truly need, want, and can’t stand. Rob and Laurel go over several types, digging into the good and bad of each. It’s then your job to determine which is best for you based on what kind of balance you need in your life. AND if you recognize yourself as one of types, that doesn’t mean that you aren’t marriage material, but maybe you might realize that there are areas that you might want to work on, strengthen, play up or down. Or, maybe you are exactly perfect the way you are and if someone doesn’t like you or feel right with you, that’s ok. Someone else will…
The most common reasons for divorce are: Money, Sex, and Expectation. So you must address them BEFORE you get married. This could be a way to avoid divorce, since you talked through the major issues first, giving yourself the pre-commitment opportunity to come to a calm understanding without the pressure of forever. OR you might avoid divorce because you realize that the issues are relationship enders, so you don’t get married in the first place. As much as that notion sounds awful right now, if you end up in the situation when you are locked in and THEN struggling with these differences and looking down the path of divorce, you will wish you had addressed them earlier. So, Rob and Laurel go into the topics and conversation starters that you must have ASAP!
Do you struggle to make people fall in love with you, or, at least, make them want more? How the hell does THE BACHELOR get all of those women want to marry him… Every Single One? Easy. It’s a strategy. Laurel and Rob break down the strategy, plus give you tips as to how you too can make more people want more of YOU. A few hints? Vulnerability, Competition, Scarcity, Purpose, Environment, Experiences, and Spontaneity.
Breakups, Divorce, and “Failed” relationships hurt, can deplete your self esteem, make you feel like you are tainted or have too much baggage, leave you jaded and angry, and can screw up your finances… AND they can also be the best teachers, life leaping propellers, inspiration, transformation-instigating, mid-course correcting, reassessing, brutally honest reality checking LESSONS… IF you extract the benefits from the breakup. Along with expert Rebecca Whitman, Laurel and Rob will help you to turn breakups and divorce into shorter term hurt, by helping you to use it to your long-term life benefit by turning your perceived failure into true transformation.
You have to be Confidently Vulnerable. Here’s the thing though, Vulnerability doesn’t have to mean childhood trauma or negativity.
Vulnerability can be about the moments, pain points, revelations, midcourse corrections, inspirations, illuminations, points of references, markers, meaning, and feelings. That’s how you create an emotional connection.
Even if you don’t have initial chemistry, you can create connecting attraction.
Curiosity can turn into connection. And connection creates attraction. That doesn’t necessarily mean that it will be a romantic connection, but you will likely create an emotional connection. And an emotional connection makes them feel. And that might be your in…
If you want to make them feel for you, you have to first make them feel.
If you want to make yourself feel for them, you have to first make yourself feel.
But First, the Best way to make them feel for you, is for you to first feel, which creates a safe environment for them to feel, then you will feel for them, and then they will feel for you.
So how do you make them and you feel? It’s a strategy of storytelling- exactly what stories to tell and how to tell them.
More than Your stories, you want them to share Their stories too.
Rob and Laurel go into the strategy, and, of course, Laurel gives personal story examples so that you can see exactly how to do it yourself.
Once you know what to do and say, you feel less insecure about doing and saying it. Because all you have to do is follow the formula. This episode will tell you EXACTLY what to say and do, how to present yourself online and in-person, when to get offline and where to go from there… Laurel and Rob present the strategy to never have a bad first date again and improve your 2nd date success rate.
Sex doesn’t always feel good- in our minds. It can trigger feelings of insecurity, fear, shame, anger, and guilt. So where are those feelings coming from and how can we heal from them and make sex pure, fun, connecting, and healthy again? Rob and Laurel explore sex and shame with Dr. Mondin, author or Erotic Love and Marriage.
You found someone really great and you think/hope that this one has REAL potential… and then it ends. Again! Not sure why your relationships keep ending, sometimes even before they really get a chance to begin? You might, unknowingly, be turning them off, shutting them down, scaring them away, and putting out the wrong signals.
You don’t have to be in a relationship in order to relate to these relationship mistakes that make good men and women run away. Even if you’re single, be aware of these relationship-destroying habits. They might help you reflect on past relationship screw-ups, helping you to better understand why it ended. They can also (hopefully) help you to not make these mistakes when starting your next relationship.
How do you make a first impression that leads to a conversation, that initiates a connection, that might expand into a relationship? What exactly do you say to break the ice and engage someone in real life? And if practice makes perfect, how do you practice without looking and feeling awkward, therefore possibly ruining your chance of a connection with someone who could have been really great? Laurel and Rob break it all down for you with not only the strategy, but also the EXACT WORDS TO SAY to successfully pick up, flirt, and possibly find your next date from a real life connection.
MONDAY- Your Daily Quickie 1: What Can I Do To Make You Want Me?
TUESDAY- Your Daily Quickie 2: JOMO- Joy Of Missing Out
WEDNESDAY- Your Daily Quickie 3: Your Reaction Reveals Your Worth…
FRIDAY- Your Daily Quickie 4: You Are Worthy.
Feeling suffocated, drained, or easily annoyed? Are you craving your space? Do you feel the need to be selfish… but you feel bad about it? Do you need to totally disconnect from emotional responsibility? Sometimes, even if you are in a relationship with a good person who seems to make sense for you… you should actually be single right now. Laurel and Rob explain why you really might need to be alone- without apology or judgment.
MONDAY- Your Daily Quickie 5: I Hope you NEVER Understand
TUESDAY- Your Daily Quickie 6: What Men Want
WEDNESDAY- Your Daily Quickie 7: What Women Want
FRIDAY- Your Daily Quickie 8: Do Nothing Really Well
If you really love you, then you will be more careful about who you choose to give your time to. Which is why you need to focus on- loving you- while you are alone. You can even be alone in a healthy way WITHIN a relationship by taking moments for alone time.
…But there is a tipping point. You don’t want to get so comfortable being alone that you no longer want to be with someone else, OR you become angry, insecure, and reclusive because you are STILL alone and you start to then feel LONELY. There is a strategy to being ALONE and NOT LONELY. Laurel and Rob explain both the benefits of being alone, and how to be alone and not lonely.
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